There is much confusion about soul mates and twin souls. Very often these two terms have been used synonymously. They are not synonymous. One can and do have many soul mates but one has only one twin soul. In order to understand how these terms come about one must begin from the beginning. Aeons ago, many dispatches of souls or sparks of divinity were discharged from the Source or Godhead. These were destined to be human souls. The numbers in each dispatch vary considerably. The least number is a few, but the numbers may go to millions. The usual numbers are in the hundreds or thousands. The numbers are dependent on the maturity of the souls and the main purpose of their journey. The more mature or spiritually advanced they are the lesser number will be in the outburst. The first timers will be in the hundreds of thousands or millions. This process has been going on from time immemorial: there was no beginning and it looks as if there is no end.
Take an average group
of a hundred and twenty eight souls in the one discharge from the
Source. They begin to cool on the way down to the physical world. There
are many, many worlds in just as many universes. This group of souls
has decided to target planet earth. They start to descend through the
pre-angelic and angelic realms in a very hazy and dreamy fashion. Very
little is remembered of this period. Memory of the remaining journey
down the celestial, spiritual, mental, astral and etheric realms is
just as blurred. The entire journey down to the etheric/physical realm
takes thousands of millions of years until they arrive at a physical
planet. In the first incarnation, the group went into rocks as
minerals. The entire group of souls took form in the same mineral,
e.g. jade or calcium. They remain in these rocks until they were about
to be upgraded to vegetation and that was when the planet had to
disintegrate into smithereens. The life span as a rock took millions of
years.
In the next stage the
total soul group of one hundred and twenty eight souls would have to
change planet. This time round they would go into the vegetation
kingdom. Again all of them would remain in the same family of plants as
they progressed. If the leader decides to be an orchid, the remaining
soul mates would become the same type of orchid. From thence
onwards, the whole group would grow spiritually by dying and being
reborn into different types of vegetation, e.g. bushes, flowers and
trees of various types etc. It is in this kingdom that we first learnt
about death. We were destroyed by being trampled upon or eaten by
animals or humans. After millions of years of being in the vegetation
kingdom, we then moved on to the animal kingdom. Hitherto and
including the animal kingdom we remain as group souls although we have
already been individualized. At this stage the total group of 128 souls
tend to remain as one type of animal. As group souls we do not have
self-awareness. We only know the difference between ‘us’ and ‘them’.
Again having reincarnated through many categories of animals, we arrive
at being Australopithecus afarensis more than 3 million years ago.
Then Homo habilis (the handy human) lived in Africa roughly 2.5 million
years ago. Homo habilis walked upright and has the same dexterity
as modern man. He had a brain half the size of modern man. This is the
first precursor of man. The Australopithecus had a brain capacity of 400
cc. Then roughly about more than 1.5 million years ago Homo
habilis evolved into Homo erectus, which has an average brain capacity
of 850 c.c.
The Neanderthal is
the transitional stage between the H. habilis and H. sapiens. The
Neanderthal who was the first H.sapiens came about 200,000 years ago and
became extinct 35,000 years ago. It has the same brain capacity as
modern man, but its skull structure is more primitive than modern man’s.
The Neanderthal is the first human ancestor to bury his dead. This is
about 60,000 years ago. However, around 35,000 years ago,
the Cro-magnons completely replaced the Neanderthals and totally
populated the earth. The Cro-magnons has a brain capacity of about
1,400 c.c. At this human stage, the Cro-magnons begin to ‘know that we
know’. From this point onwards, the Cro-magnons began the human journey
in earnest. We began to feel instinctively when we met our soul mates:
there was an instant attraction to all the other 127 soul mates, but we
still did not know that each of us has a twin. In the vegetable and
animal stages we tended to move in the same group, and we were always
not very far from each other including our twins. However, as humans we
may be dispersed thousands of miles away from our soul mates. And as
soon as we meet any one in our soul group we instantly feel an
attraction to the other. In the primitive stages of our human evolution
we certainly would not be able to differentiate between our soul mates
and our twin. It is only very much later, nearing the time of
the return journey to the spiritual realms that we are able to
recognize our twin.
The Breakdown Of The Group And Its Return
Taking the example of
a group of 128 souls as above, the breakdown goes like this. It is
first broken down by half i.e. 64 in each. Then these two sub-groups
are further divided into 32, then 16, 8, 4 and ultimately two. The
final division is when the last two is separated into twin souls. As
the breakdown proceeded from the total group of 128 down to the last
twin, there is pain and suffering at every separation, until the last
divide the pain is the most excruciating. At this juncture, both
twins vowed to seek out each other no matter how long and what hardship
it entails. Of course, when the twins meet and merge back again, their
task will be to conglomerate and amalgamate the entire group of 128
back to the same original whole again. When will this process start? It
will be when the entire group is about to finish with their education
on earth. That means in simple religious language, they are about to
be enlightened. Or some would have been enlightened already, but there
would also be a few stragglers left behind on earth. There could be a
long wait at this border of astral/etheric realm, as some of the
stragglers may take a much longer time than their fellow soul mates.
However, there is some compensation at this juncture because most of
the group would have found their twins and some would have already
merged with their twins. Although most twin souls tend to be near each
other during the last 2 lives, not all are so fortunate. So a few
souls may have to wait for their twins at the border. Every member of
the original group must be enlightened to merge together before they
can start the journey of crossing over to the spiritual realm.
So one can see that
from the beginning as primitive man one is able to feel the presence
of a fellow soul mate. There is no logical reason for the attraction or
liking of the soul mate. The feeling is just there. At this primitive
stage, one cannot recognize the soul mate as a twin, although the twin
attraction may be the strongest of them all.. That is all. There is no
reason or accounting for it. Throughout the hundreds of thousands of
incarnations, we have wives or husbands and lovers, and if they are not
our twins or soul mates the attraction wanes in the next incarnation.
One must also marry or have lovers from other soul groups, some of whom
have been antagonistic towards our own soul group. Hence the
intense quarrelling and bickering in marriages. However, one must
remember that no matter whom we marry or have as our family members
every experience in every incarnation is part of our spiritual growth.
The reason we separated in the first place is to gather experience and
learn to love unconditionally. That means we have to breakout of this
mold of inbreeding with our own soul mates and whatever knowledge and
wisdom we gather from other soul groups is to enrich our experience.
Even in the same soul group, every one of the 128 is a different soul.
And although the twins are very similar in character and have almost
identical vibrations, they are again different. Their vibrations in
this cohesive total group would have encoded the
tendencies, characteristics and the level of development into every
soul of the group. In other words, the larger the group emitted from
the source, the less developed will the soul mates be and therefore the
mutual attraction is less powerful than the much smaller groups. The
smaller the group and the longer they stayed together, the more
developed they are and, therefore, the stronger will be the mutual
attraction. This principle will continue until the very Old Soul who
will incarnate as an avatar who is composed of a small group of 2, 4 or
8 souls, which do not subdivide. These remain fused as one Old Soul, a
sage or an avatar. Although an avatar has to go through the
same rounds like the rest of us, he always takes the leading
position in whichever kingdom he is in, e.g. lion in the animal
kingdom, an oak tree in the vegetable kingdom or as a Buddha or Lao-tzu
in a human.
Soul Mates
Soul mates are from a
unique group that was discharged aeons ago from the Source. They
cohered and were merged for ages as they descend through all the realms
down to the physical. The older and wiser groups would have stayed
together longer and the more similar they would be, because they would
have shared more characteristics when they are together. They would
have imbibed through osmosis so many peculiarities, traits,
and tendencies from one another. When the 128 souls are
distributed throughout the 7 billion citizens of the world, the
chances of many soul mates meeting per incarnation are fairly slim.
From all the many acquaintances and friends that we meet and know in
this life, how many have turned out to be close friends? No more than a
handful. Normally it is only one or two. This number would be the same
for soul mates.
How do we recognize
our soul mates? The best way is to improve our own soul quality in
order for our mates to appear. That means we would recognize the soul in
the person. When we meet a soul mate, there is an instant liking. Then
as we come to know him or her better, we find that there is agreement
in things that are important. Our attitude towards life situations is
the same, although our interests may be different. The quality of our
soul level is very similar: we have compassion, empathy, and realize
that the purpose of life is to let go. There is no jealousy arising,
and the harmony and love that are flowing to and fro would make us
happy in each other’s presence. The love energy between two soul mates
can only be surpassed by the love between twin souls. Whilst the love
of twin souls is always with the opposite sex that of soul mates can
be with both. Strong and lasting homosexual love between two
individuals is almost always between soul mates and not twin souls
unless one of the twins has decided to change sex for that particular
incarnation. Neither is it likely between souls of two different
groups. A twin in spirit may guide a grounded twin.
Each soul is
supposed to experience everything in the universe before its return to
the source. It is definitely impossible for a single soul to do this.
Therefore, the scheme of group soul has been formulated in order that
each soul can go out and experience as much as possible, but there is
no necessity for each to gather all the
experiences. When they finally assemble together they would have
accumulated and aggregated enough knowledge and wisdom for the
whole group, as the sum of the total cargo would be adequate for the
entire group to pass the test. The total experience and knowledge is
assimilated by all and sundry, and therefore every soul in the group
would be just as knowledgeable as the whole group.
The second point in
the function of the grouping is the return. Alone, the single soul
cannot find its way back to the Source. They can only find their way
back when joined as the original group. The group is now greatly
enlarged because of its cargo of love and wisdom, although the numbers
are the same as before. One can see the joy and happiness of the whole
group joined together as a cohesive whole, bubbling its way back to the
Source, joining up with other groups on the way up.
As a group the karma
earned must now be shared by all. When one soul goes astray, the
entire group has to pay for it. So one soul may delay the cross over
and ascent of the whole group. However, as some of the souls in the
group have done well, so the entire group would also enjoy the fruits
thereof.
Soul Mates Within A Family
Do soul mates tend to
aggregate in one genetic family? The answer is not often. If they do
incarnate in one genetic family, it would be mostly two to three in
number. The usual number is two. Genetically they would be sister and
brother, father and daughter or mother and son or husband and wife.
Except as husband and wife, twin souls very rarely incarnate in the same
family. This is because of the incestuous tendencies in the other
combinations. Some cases of incest between father and daughter is due to
the fact that they are twin souls. In the other
combinations, certainly favoritism would arise, and that would lead to
jealousy and guilt. The soul mates in the same family would not know
of the reason for their fondness for each other, let alone for the
other members outside the soul group to realize this affinity.
Needless to say, the
best arena for spiritual practice is in the earthly family. The
diversity of souls from different soul groups and the different levels
of maturity provide the right mix and background for all the members in
the family to practice. The more advanced members of the family will be
able to pull up the less developed members. The challenges, the
inequalities and the petty jealousies are all excellent material for
growth. Although the souls in one family usually fall into a
vibrational range, some of them may come from different soul groups
and even from different universes. In the latter cases, the number and
extent of conflicts can be quite horrendous, testing the members of the
earth family to breaking point. Then there may arise misunderstanding,
tension and embittered battles, which will be the perfect scenario for
evil forces to intervene. At this point, drug and alcohol addiction,
child and wife abuse and murder etc could enter this power play. Heavy
karma is then incurred. This precipitate evolution is forced upon the
family, as they were too tardy and lackadaisical hitherto. The
resistance to growth has resulted in the pain and suffering as a wake
up call. Therefore, we can now understand the process in the genesis of
family karma.
Companion Soulmates: this
is a subdivision of soul mates in which couples in the same group soul
have created strong relationships over many incarnations. They may
incarnate as husband and wife, brother and sister, father and daughter
or mother and son. They may also come down as just mere friends. These
companion soulmates might have incarnated together for hundreds of
times, but they are not twin souls. Their love for each other is the
strongest amongst soul mates, but still it has not the same magnitude
as that of a twin soul.
Soul Mates As Married Couples
The love between two
soul mates is very intense and strong. In fact quite a few of these
love affairs have been written up as famous love stories e.g. “Wuthering
Heights,” “Romeo and Juliet” and “Gone with the Wind.”
That means when soul
mates marry, they appear as if they are twin souls, but the discerning
can pick up certain tell tale signs, which can differentiate one from
the other. Although their love and harmony are usually of a grand
affair, there will still be fuel for spiritual growth. Fuel in this
instance means fodder for disagreements and misunderstandings leading
to fights and even separations. In every crisis, if one is willing to
learn from the mistakes that accrue from the crisis, then it becomes
a spiritual lesson. On the whole, there is much more harmony and peace
in a household headed by two soul mates than a family headed by two
souls from different groups.
All soul mate
relationships are purely for spiritual growth. We achieve this by
transforming ourselves, and we can only transform ourselves by learning
from others and by interacting with them. This learning must
be repeated over and over again until the lessons are
learned especially through knowing ourselves. This could then lead to
the soul mates loving themselves and then one another. Both would then
be able to establish a spiritual ideal that becomes a guiding principle
for the whole family to practice with. The ideal soul-mate parents
would tend to set an example to their children hoping that the children
would grow up to be uprighteous.
Lastly, the married
soul mates must work up their relationship into a state of unconditional
(soul) love. This love does not ask for any return, thanks or
gratitude, but the one would always place the needs of the other above
his or her own. After achieving this type of love to our soul mates, we
then learn to do the same with the rest of the family. This
commodity of divine love should then be spread to whoever comes
into our acquaintanceship. And in this way we should be able to treat
everybody as if they are our soul mates even though they are not from
the same soul group.
Soul Mates As Platonic Friends
There are true
friendships without sexual involvement. These could be man-woman
friendships or that of the same sex. The friendship is truly platonic and
one friend would literally place the wants and needs of the other
above his or her own. Idle speculators always misunderstood this type of
soul-mate relationship, and they have been wrongly labeled as
homosexual or extramarital relationships. These friendships are
invariably life long. They often triumph over all sorts of adversities
and hardships. The divine or unconditional love of soul mates is here
as much as a married couple, but no sex is involved. Some of these are
companion soulmates.
Soul Mates As Comrades
Within some group
souls, there may be a coming together of more than two to three soul
mates for a single mission or purpose. These enlarged gatherings may
be seen in political, religious, academic and military groups. There is
also an occasional special, select unit, organized to tackle a unique
task. You can imagine how concentrated and excited is a group of
researchers embarking on a completely new find, a break through that
is of Noble Prize status. Then, also is the secretive and subversive
political nucleus, which is enthusiastically working under cover to
topple the existing corrupt government. All the core groups in these
earthshaking endeavours are soul mates with one aim for the good of
mankind.
In religion, the
exemplary groups are Jesus and his 12 disciples. Jesus is the grand old
soul, the avatar. His 12 disciples are from the same group soul.
Similarly, the other avatar, Gautama Buddha, was also accompanied by
his soul mates. These were his disciples who became enlightened saints,
e.g. Sariputta and Moggallana. From these examples we can see the
dedication with which these soul mates pursued their goal of forming a
new religion for the good of mankind. Near the end not all
their disciples had uniform faith. One can now question whether Judas
was truly a soul mate of Jesus. Or was he from another soul group? I
prefer to believe that he was from the same group, or else Jesus would
not have been crucified. Because of his crucifixion and his ‘rising
from the dead’ that a new religion was formed.
Groups Of Advanced Souls Descending To Service
Throughout the
history of the earth, there have been periods during which groups of
advanced souls descend to enrich earth’s art and scientific stature. In
music, the era of Bach, Beethoven, Brahms, Mozart and Haydn has never
been repeated. No other period has seen such giants coming down during
such a short span of time. One can also cite the great master painters
like Leonardo daVinci, Michelangelo, Raphael etc coming down to improve
the artistic quality of the earth. Then you have the great thinkers
like Newton, Copernicus, Galileo and Einstein. These geniuses do not
come down together at the same time, but they each bring down their
scientific and philosophical thoughts during a short span of time e.g.
within a couple of centuries, which is short in cosmic time. Then
in psychology one has Freud, Jung, Adler, Rank and Reich. These
masters definitely put psychology on the map. At the moment, you have
the transpersonal psychologists in California, e.g. Ken Wilber,
Stanislav and Christina Grof and Roberto Assagioli. Again throughout
history, authors of great literature came down in waves in different
countries like Russia, China, England and France etc.
These soul-mate
groups may not come down at the same time, but their theme is singular
and so is their locality: e.g. Europe and the United States. The giant
musicians are mainly from Austria and Germany. The psychologists are
from Europe. So one can see that their mission or purpose is to
propagate divine music or disseminate art or uplift the standard of
science. Each group has one aim, and their sole purpose is to promote
that aim. One may also guess that the great English writers appearing
during the 18th, 19th and 20th centuries may come from the same group.
Twin Souls
Twin souls are the
last two souls to individualize. They are the last two peas from the
same pod. At that final separation, they vowed to be reunited after
they have completed their earthly duties, before they cross over to the
spiritual realm for the ascent back to the Source. Whilst they were
still fused together in the same pod, their sexual gender is
androgynous and not male or female. It is only when they finally
separate into individuals that they take on their basic gender of male
and female. This basic gender will be with the twins throughout their
repeated sojourns on earth until they meet again to merge. Once they
merged they revert back to be androgynous. Whilst they are alone,
whether they are on earth or in spirit, although they are either
basically male or female, both contain the yang and yin elements. In
other words, both contain male and female characteristics in each of
them, and each of them has to balance the male and female elements to
suit their sexual agenda for that incarnation. A basic male will adjust
more yang into his psyche. Similarly, a female will have more yin in
hers. A basic male who wants to be physically female for a particular
incarnation may do so, as he has both elements in his etheric and other
subtle bodies.
Another sure pointer
to the fact that we have both gender elements in us is at the stage of
adolescence. A young boy growing up to be an adult male may have
homosexual tendencies like having a crush on another male, usually
someone he hero worships. Then when he finally overcomes the traumas of
adolescence, he becomes a full-blooded male again, without the
slightest homosexual tendency left. This is also true of female
adolescence.
We have many soul
mates, but each of us has only one twin soul. A twin soul has every
ingredient to be a whole individual. He is not a soul cut into half.
However, as he has shared the same pod for the entire journey
downward towards the physical earth with his twin, that attachment and
longing for the twin is always there in the subliminal
consciousness. The incessant throbbing of desire for the other twin is
never far beneath the subconscious. It becomes more and more cogent when
the soul nears the heightened state of enlightenment. That means that
as soon as we become humans we have been working and practicing to
achieve the ideal state to merge with our twin. This could have taken
us hundreds of thousands of incarnations. As twin souls are so alike
to start with, they must make the rounds to develop and learn other
things so that when they merge the fused twin souls will be much richer.
After the fusion, the entity will not be twosome but threesome!
According to Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov, ‘a human meets his twin soul
twelve times during his incarnations on earth.’ Prior to the
ultimate meeting, some of the incarnations are fraught with suffering,
like Romeo and Juliet. That means that even though we meet our twin it
does not mean a blissful marriage for us. Pain and suffering beset the
twins like the rest, but their love with one another is always
steadfast. I believe that the last incarnation is different. In this
last lifetime, both will be carrying out a mission for the benefit of
mankind, and this last life on earth should be free of health and
wealth problems. I may be wrong here, but I presume that this should
be the case. Otherwise they cannot carry out their duty or mission
well. Edgar Cayce and his twin soul, Glynn Davis are a good example.
Both were healthy until they died. Glynn died much later, and she was
the one that carried out Edgar Cayce’ s work till the day she passed
over. Glynn Davis was Edgar Cayce’s secretary for years. She was hard
working, dedicated and methodical and she is the one that recorded all
Edgar Cayce’s readings for posterity. The twin souls were dedicated to
the same service for mankind.
How To Prepare For Our Twin?
We prepare by growing
spiritually, so that we become whole and independent. We have to
increase our vibrations by eradicating greed, lust and anger. From
our normal selfishness we repeatedly convert it to selflessness. The
greatest task is to humble ourselves, otherwise pride would blind us to
our twin. Then comes a stage of divine discontent, which can
be obliterated by forgiveness. Forgive oneself first and then forgive
the others. Then learn to love oneself and then others. In the life
before the one in which we would be meeting our twins we should be well
developed spiritually. Our mission is known, and we would be pursuing
our life plan with determination and joy. There would be
self-discipline. One twin could be running parallel jobs without
realizing the presence of the other. And yet, one twin is helping the
other through energy interchange. This process is not recognized by
both. The best way to increase our spiritual status is to go inwards.
Summarizing the methods for preparation to meet our twin:
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Spiritual discipline: Adopt a spiritual discipline, which includes meditation. The latter would accomplish silence and stillness with emptiness of thoughts. In that silence and stillness a small little voice will surface to let us know what further steps to take. This discipline would also help us to eradicate lust, greed, anger, selfishness and pride. It is of course a slow process, but with meditation it is faster than any other method. In the depth of that emptiness and stillness, bliss will automatically arise, and if one is able to retain that bliss, joy and happiness will be our lot throughout the day. ‘Be still and know that I am God’.
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Let go: While on this path, the essential goal would be to let go. One must be satisfied with what material comfort that is available to us. ‘Enough is enough’ should be everybody’s motto. The pursuit of the 5 C’s in the developing and developed countries has been the bugbear. They work furiously just to acquire (1) cars, (2) condominium, (3) credit cards, (4) career, and (5) clubs membership to neurotic proportions. They forget that we cannot take it with us. A story here would illustrate this point brilliantly. A young student is sent overseas to study certain skills. This overseas country has a currency control. No money may be brought in or taken out of the country. However the student may earn a living to feed himself and pay for his tuition fees. The scholarship is for ten years. So he took a part time job while studying the skills that he was sent to learn. This part time job was so successful that in two years he made it a full time job. Then he acquired a flat, a car with credit cards. He joined prestigious clubs of that country, and he made his lucrative job his career, forgetting what he went there for. The skills that he went to learn were compassion, wisdom and unconditional love. All these were totally forgotten. So by the end of ten years at which time he has to go home, he failed miserably to acquire these skills. Neither could he bring home all his wealth because the foreign country does not allow any expatriation of its currency, and also his home country does not use money. The currency in his home is karma and merit. This is exactly what happens to all of us, except that the length of overseas study is between 50 to 80 years and not ten. And the country of our foreign study is planet earth. Our home is the spirit world.
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Our path and skills: We are all endowed with certain skills, carried over from past lives. We follow our propensities and the one that gives us the most happiness should be grasped and developed as a profession or vocation. It may not be lucrative at all, but nevertheless it is satisfying. With this talent as his lifework he may be able to earn a living as well as provide a service to mankind. That means if one’s job were to help the handicapped, the aged sick or retarded children then one’s occupation would also be part of one’s spiritual growth. If our work is to teach the young, equally one should put one’s heart and soul into the teaching and not merely take the teaching as earning one’s keep. The teacher should also instill spiritual qualities in his instructions.
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Nature and Nurture: In our recreation, one should indulge in nature. Exercising on the beach or in the woods or amongst the trees is par excellence. Walking in the woods, swimming in the seas and gardening to grow flowers and bushes for beauty should be actively cultivated. Other forms of recreations should include appreciation of classical music. Mozart, Brahms, Beethoven, Schubert and Mahler are the music of choice. If one is not familiar with these composers, try to learn to appreciate them. Loud, rock music especially of the hard metal variety should be avoided at all costs, because these types of music would definitely end up in deafness and it also arouses our third chakra to unseemly proportions. Lastly, one should care for this body and mind. Proper food, vegetables and fish, and avoidance of alcohol, drugs and smoking constitute clean living. Then enough rest in the form of sleep should do for the ordinary person, but for the spiritually minded, meditation is a must.
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The penultimate step: From now onwards we must behave as if every relationship could possibly be the ultimate one. She or he may not be the right one, but at least we know how to behave when we finally meet the real twin. Every time we enter into a relationship, we treat the other person as if he or she is our twin. The other person’s happiness must be above our own. We go to great lengths to make the other happy and secure even to our own detriment. One must remember that at this penultimate stage, both twins are on the verge of enlightenment and periods of loneliness or solitude invariably accompanies the seekers. These periods of loneliness are a false sense of separation from our soul. Therefore, meditating inwards to realize our true self is an immediate solution. When our true self is realized, bliss is there. The loneliness and sadness will vanish right away with the light accompanying the soul.
Recognizing The Twin
Twin souls have the
same vibrations. They come form the same mould, although not from the
same womb. They are like one person bisected into two, but not one
soul divided into two. Therefore, even after millions of years of
separation, when they meet they know instinctively that that this is
the twin. Their vision, feeling and purpose are one. They see the same
vision from the same spot, unlike two other people with two different
sets of eyes, which see the same scene juxtaposed with one another. The
twin souls see the same scene with their combined third eye. The
scene arouses the same feeling in both, although both are of
different personalities. In fact what they see may even be
complimentary. This must be the case, as they are now brought together
for a single purpose. The feeling for each other is nothing less than
divines love. The unconditionality of their love equals loving your
neighbour as thyself or loving the other as yourself. One does not love
the other despite the other’s faults; one loves the other for the
other’s faults as much as for the other’s virtues.
The love of twin
souls is an ideal to be copied by all. The harmony and care do not
allow of envy, irritation or exasperation for the other. Pain and
suffering are not allowed to emerge from either party. If there is
any infliction of pain it is due to an error of omission or lack of
awareness. There is absolutely no intention to hurt.
The First Meeting
As mentioned by
Omraam Mikhael Ivahov, twin souls meet about twelve times in our human
incarnations. That means before this last sojourn, there could have
been at least eleven previous meetings. Every meeting would have been
melodramatic, memorable and electric. According to Sufi teachings, twin
souls are like two Roman rings interlocking with each other. They may
come very close when they enter a relationship in an incarnation, which
means the two rings almost superimpose. But when they separate due to
disagreements or reincarnating in different countries, the rings try to
break away, but it is not possible. They remain inter-linked
throughout their sojourns on earth and during intermissions in spirit.
There is always a varying amount of common space between the two rings.
During any twin-soul encounter, it is bound to be hypnotically
momentous. A special feeling of energy seems to pass from one to the
another beyond their control. This passage of energy is both nice and
exciting. This is twin soul recognizing one another without involving
the intellect. These twin souls encounter the same feeling and the same
quality of love and it means the end of their loneliness. However, not
all meetings of twin souls end well. Some cannot even get together.
Some divorce after marriage, and they die without fulfillment. Of
course, these are not their last incarnations.
Now in the last
meeting before their ascent to the spiritual realms, both twins are
either enlightened or nearly so. Therefore at this stage the
recognition must be mutual. As they are so developed their mission in
this last incarnation has a common purpose. Having the same
aspirations, both would be working for the good of humanity. Their
same intensity of love and compassion would make them persistent in
their common pursuit. One could be the leader or innovator whilst the
other is the steady workhorse. Both must be preferably, in either in
arts or in science. So that the effort is not dissipated by one
being in the arts and the other in science. However, this fact is not
essential. Their common goal is generally to uplift and enhance the
quality of humanity. Both could be in the healing profession or in the
promotion of arts etc. Even if they do not work in the same place,
having the same vision their work could become complimentary, since they
have the same preferences, tastes and predilection. Their
mental capacity is of the same order. Their tastes in food, music and
sense of humour are all the same. Both will either like the mountains
or the sea. Their handwriting and the lines on their palms are similar.
At this stage of development, they both possess a polished sense of
humour and are good-natured. One could go on ad nauseam. You have to
meet a couple of twin souls yourself to see how much in unison they
behave. Of course, as human beings there may be twin souls who still
have some differences and friendly competition may ensue. The outcome
is the betterment of humanity. The so-called fight would not last long
and the make-up is the sweeter. Sometimes twin souls appear to be
doing the same thing at the same time, e.g. writing letters to one
another at the same time.
Before the meeting,
the twins usually can sense that the time is coming near for them to
meet. Then when they meet during the last incarnation, the charged
electricity and explosion would indicate in no uncertain terms that
‘this is it’. However, this is not the end. Rather, it is the beginning
of an ongoing process in this last incarnation. Both have still to
develop and practice. Both have to continue to work at themselves so
that their perfection will entitle them to journey in the spiritual
realms forever never to return to earth.
When they do meet,
the age difference is of no consequence to them. The disparity could be
as much as fifty years, but it is totally of no importance to the
twins. They do not try to change each other for both accept each
other as they are. Both are usually in the same state of health: both
are either healthy or both are in the same state of incapacity. Both
normally have strong telepathic linkages, and if one is sad so is the
other. Conversely, happiness in one very often infects the other even
though they may be thousands of miles apart. Lastly, both tend to
incarnate into similar social circumstances; otherwise some difficulties
may arise due to the disparate social status.
False Twin
Sometimes in our
enthusiasm we see a twin when he or she is not one. In a joyful
relationship, the mistake is understandable. However, the mistake may
be stretched until both parties are hurt, more so by the dreamer. We
grab at the similarities and enlarge them to fantasy level. Then when
the relationship is dying, when everybody else can see it, the illusion
is still perpetuated to our great cost.
With our karma we
formulate our G-plan (life plan) before coming down to earth. Our G-plan
can still be modified or changed because of our freedom of choice. On
the other hand in the matter of our twin, there is no choice. From the
moment we individualize, our twin is destined to come back to us in the
final incarnation. No amount of imagination or wishing can bring
forth our twin at the time we want it.
In our loneliness, we
are very vulnerable. We ourselves may construct the delusion and the
make belief will drive us further away from our true twin. So-called
gurus, who will pronounce to a lonely woman that she is his twin soul,
may also accentuate the illusion. After some time the guru will discard
this ‘twin’ and go for another. The same ploy is used. Because he
is a guru the woman tends to believe him implicitly. Sometimes the guru
even mentions that he has two twins! This false guru dazzles the
disciple with his light, as the victim wants to believe because of
her loneliness, and it is better to have a twin who is a guru than to
have one who is an ordinary person.
The time to meet our
twin is beyond our control. It entirely depends on the spiritual
progress of the twins. After sounding the warning above, I would like to
end this section with a cheerful note. As we cross over to the
Aquarian age, there will be many meetings of twin souls, much more than
hitherto. This is the good news. That also means that at each meeting
the twosome will emit a light much brighter than the sum of two. It
also means that with so many twins joining up throughout the
whole world, there will be a great proliferation of lights across the
globe, and this on its own will change the consciousness of planet
earth. We would certainly be entering the age of enlightenment during
this Aquarian age.
Twin Soul Sex
When they do meet,
physical sex will not be the end all and be all of all pleasures. Of
course, they still enjoy sexual pleasure, but it is no more the
ultimate. It is love between two bodies as well as two souls. At this
present age very few twins are already consummating their union in
spirit. Physically they do not have to be together. They may
be thousands of miles apart, but their spirits meet and conjoin. The
joy and pleasure is much more satisfying than physical lovemaking. This
is the opinion of all those who have experienced it.
Twin Soul Difficulties
When twin souls first
meet even in their final incarnation, some of them will have
differences in physical, emotional and intellectual content of the two
personalities. Firstly, one soul has to adjust his difficulties
within himself. Then he has to match whatever he has to the other. That
means he has to clear all his own foibles, needs, cravings and ill will
before he meets his twin as a fully satisfied individual. He should
be ready to serve the other by putting the requirements of the other
twin before his own. And vice versa. The struggle between themselves
and together will definitely go to enhance the twinship. This is so
because they have different psychological background and different
personalities with emotional divergence. There will be normal conflicts
when the two have such a close relationship, but the conflicts will
be rapidly resolved. This is because their goal is the same.
The emotional conflict is almost unbearable because they are twins. So
in order not to see the other suffer, they tend to solve the problem as
soon as possible.
As they have been
travelling by themselves, they have earned good and bad karma of their
own. Once they meet and work together, they must now try and clear both
karmic debts jointly. Similarly, good karma earned by both
independently will be enjoyed by both. In fact, as karma is created at
the soul level, both have been influenced by the other’s karma
imperceptibly.
There will definitely
be stress in some couples, and in these they may even break up
temporarily. Some couples will have to suffer together because of
joined karma. There are so many possibilities in so many combinations
and permutations. In some, the different backgrounds and karma would
have brought together two very different individuals. This fact does
not bother them at all. In this instance, “opposites do attract”. All
the differences go to complement their lives. So differences in
physical, emotional and psychological make up do not tear them apart
irrevocably, because their souls are joined together like Siamese
twins. The compatibility here is at the spiritual level. That alone
counts.
Obstacles To Be Encountered
The obstacles within
the individual should mostly be solved by the time of the meeting.
However, there may be few external obstacles that present themselves.
One or both twins could have already been married when they meet. The
eternal triangle is usually dealt by the almost enlightened
individuals with accommodation to the existing families. If one were to
hear that someone has walked out on the family to be with his or
her twin soul, one can rest assured that it is not a twin soul union in
their final incarnation. The already committed twin is too responsible
and would continue to honour the pre-existing marriage. The twins will
know that there must be a very good reason for this inconvenience. It
could be a test or because of unresolved karmic obligations. The twins
would then remain as loving friends or colleagues without marriage
disruptions. This is due to fact that they are no more powered by
passionate physical sex, as their love is above that. They may meet at
night in spirit for the purpose of uplifting a common cause. They may
meet in either the astral or mental world. They know that their
separation is temporary and nothing in the world can stop their final
union. Of course very occasionally their meeting could precipitate a
marriage breakup, but this is with a marriage that is already
collapsing. The breakup may induce some benefit to the aggrieved
members, who can start anew with their own new partners. With this in
mind, the twins who are uniting in this last incarnation, would have
cultivated fidelity, joy, love and trust, and their union would be as
solid as a rock.
However, there may
still be a few cases, where one soul has not reached the same level as
the other. One partner may outgrow the other, and the demands of the
less developed may be irksome to most other partners. However to the
developed twin this mild set back must be met with tolerance and
patience, otherwise the growth may be stunted. At this juncture it is a
shame to let the stunting be a deterrent for further growth. For
instance, if one soul were to suffer from some neurotic illness, this
fact may be detrimental for both. So the care-giving partner has
to sacrifice his smooth progression to confront the neurotic partner
with the truth of the difficulty. This may rock the marriage, but it
has to be done. You do not spare the rod because you are afraid to
hurt the naughty child. The soft stance will hurt the child more at a
later date. This self-sacrifice must be persistent and long
standing otherwise it will not work, for most neurotic diseases are
brought over from past lives. The effort is worth it for it is for the
mutual good of both, and the reward is enlightenment with the ultimate
union with one’s twin. Thence the cross over to the higher spiritual
realms never to return to earth again!
Conclusion
Every body on earth
has been drawing closer and closer to his or her twin soul, whether
they know it or not, whether they want it or not. The journey of this
search started the minute we individualize aeons ago. In the earlier
stages, we were ignorant of this treasure hunt. We just obeyed our
instincts and desires. It is only now when we are crossing over to the
Aquarian age that we are much more aware of the reason for this path.
There appears to be some degree of urgency in this search, just because
we are nearing the end of our search. When we are going to meet our
twin is not for us to know. It can be tomorrow or even the next life.
As in the mystic path, when one finds oneself in the ‘dark night of the
soul’, one knows that the time is nigh. At this stage of our search,
the loneliness is intense. This darkness of sadness, suffering and
pain has no end in sight. However, lo and behold one’s twin suddenly
turns up at the next corner! She could be the nurse, doctor or the
social worker. Or the twin may be at the church gathering that you
started to attend. One never knows, but the twin will certainly appear.
If it is not in this life, then it will be the next life at the
latest. So do not despair. The twin will definitely turn up. You have
no choice in this matter.
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